Moved from last month.
I stood my ground this week and stopped being a doormat! My younger brother with the booby gold digger girlfriend hadn’t taken his keys back. He left a spare car key and a spare house key with me because I’ve had to rescue him a few times when he’s locked himself out of his car. His house key, I had never used because he knows I would never go into his house without him being there, that’s just respect.
He borrowed $100 from me a while back and it’s not the money but the principle of it. Some time back, one of my sisters borrowed money from him and I don’t know what is owed to him but he would always say how she owes him and he stays mad about it to this day and it has to be 10 years or more since it happened. So I really wanted to see how long he would go with owing the money to me while complaining about her owing him.
We had a storm a little over a week ago and we had his generator in our back room, had it there for about 9 months from when he brought it over one time and would never come to pick it up. So the day before the storm hit, he sat on my bed (I work from home) and told me that he was taking the generator with him. He was evacuating but he wanted it to be at his house for when he came home. He left and went to North Carolina and sent pictures and video of the little stream their cabin sat next to. Then sent pictures of them going to a museum and eating out. Meanwhile, I’m at home with my granddaughter, nephew and no power, while his generator sat at his house waiting for him to come back. I never said anything negative in reaction to the pictures and videos. I guess I was too busy trying to save our food and try to figure out how I’m going to afford to fix the roof.
He brought his son over and honestly I was glad to see my nephew. However, my brother stood in front of me, again while I was working, and flashed $300 while saying his ex-wife gave it to him to help with evacuating. I don’t think she realized that they “took a vacation”. So I don’t know if he was supposed to give her the money back or what. He handed me a $100 bill and said to use it to feed my nephew. Huh? I was having him overnight, is he serious or gloating? He then says to give the change to his ex when she picks up my nephew. Ah Hah! There was the answer, he wanted her to think that the change I give her is the entire change of the money she gave him. So I asked for the guidance of two of my older sisters and they agreed to give it back to him and not his ex-wife.
So this week I handed it to him, he slid it into his pocket and didn’t say a word. I figured he would say something about what he owed me, but nothing. It just left me with an empty feeling that he really didn’t think of me as anything but a person there for when he needs. So I gathered up my courage and put his car and house key into a little box and taped it up with masking tape. I went over to his house but of course, he wasn’t home so I put it between his screen door and the regular door. I then told him to make sure and get the key when he goes home. He asked if I was disowning him, I just simply said that he has a support team now and I don’t need to have them any longer.
Earlier today I asked them both if I could have my nephew this coming weekend for a special trip. His ex answered me but he didn’t so I still don’t know if I can have my nephew this weekend or not. But low and behold, my email shows he put the $100 in my bank account. I asked him if it was for my nephew for this weekend and he said it was just because he owed it to me. I think the keys kicked him in the ego, he didn’t think I would ever take a stand and stop being a doormat. Truly I’ve been a bit of a pushover since my mother passed and the old me is long gone, so he would never have expected it.
I just wonder what’s to come next as he’s turned quiet and normally he’s someone that yells. Yet I didn’t feed him with that so he can’t really yell I guess, he’s got to figure out a different way to deal with it now and I’m curious to see what he does. I just wish sometimes adults could be adults.