Poverty or Pity

I posted something on my facebook page and one of my nieces took offence to it in the sense of not agreeing with my opinion. Now I don’t fault her for not seeing things the way that I do, this is what I appreciate where we live; everyone has their own opinion. I love that.

What bothers me is that she is a younger generation and is educated. She herself is a teacher to 8th graders so she is not one to just throw her opinions around. However, I find it hard to understand that she can be of the mind that if you’re living in an unsafe place, you can just pick everything up and move to somewhere safer. Am I supposed to live in a car in that safer place, with my family and two cats? Common sense didn’t play into her opinion…..in my opinion. I’m happy that she’s never had to want for anything or worry about when the bills are going to get paid but I also think it’s distanced her from understanding the reality of others.

I’m not saying that everyone should have to live as I have had to do or go through what I have but I do think that a general sense of understanding should be taught. My sister clearly missed the boat in teaching her to try and understand the “other foot”. I love my niece dearly but I worry about her. This reality of hers is not real and one day it’s going to catch up to her and not by me. It’s going to be someone that doesn’t take to kindly to being looked at as lazy when they might be working two or three jobs in order to feed their family.

It upsets me because my sister was not raised that way and she passed it on to her daughter. Don’t judge someone unless you have something to judge upon. An experience with someone where they treated you a certain way, you can use your judgement for that. But to say all poor people are the same and only want pity? That’s a judgement that no experience, especially that she’s had, been said. This kind of rush to judgement is what the country is suffering from.

We need to take a breath and step back, listen to all sides and then make our own decision. It’s easy to see that some decisions lately are made by how much exposure you can get for yourself or if someone is paying you to be there from what I understand. The look or financial standing of someone does not diminish nor improve the validity of their opinion. Stop looking to celebrities for your thoughts! Look into your own mind and listen, make up your own mind. Just because a basketball player says they think something is wrong, that’s their opinion, don’t be a drone and follow just because of their status. Same for actors and actresses, I find a horrible taste in my mouth when a celebrity steps up and opens theirĀ mouth just to sound like a fool. I don’t buy tickets to a movie or a play to hear what the actor has to say. I buy those tickets to hear what the writers have told them to say.

Judgement is something that is personal to each and every one of us and we should treat it as the power that it is. Listen and trust in yourself to know that what you are feeling inside is your gut telling you what you feel. Learn about the situation if you don’t know but look further than the local news, television is there for a reason and that’s to draw viewers so that the sponsors can get paid. Don’t be the drone….be the boss of your own mind.

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I like to think I'm a normal everyday woman but my mind tells me otherwise. I fight my battles and post them here. I don't tell my family and real life friends that I write here. This is my own little way of having "someone" to talk to. My own little therapy session if you will. I welcome comments and opinions but I have enough negativity to last a lifetime already . My world is changing and now more than ever I need support and encouragement but I'm still too afraid to let anyone know that it's me writing here.